EMDR is a bit hard to explain and honestly, it’s something you feel more than you understand at first. But here’s a rough idea of how it works:
We start by slowing things down. Before we touch anything painful, we build a sense of safety: your inner “resources.” These might be memories, places, people, sensations. Anything that feels stable and grounding. You learn how to come back to yourself, even when emotions show up.
Then, gently, we start exploring. Maybe there’s a memory that feels stuck, or a situation in your life that keeps triggering the same reaction. We look at those moments together. Not to analyze them to death, but to help your nervous system process what it couldn’t at the time.
Using a method called bilateral stimulation (that might mean following sounds, having buzzers in your hand or watching my hand from left to right), we invite your brain to do what it naturally does when it‘s allowed to heal: connect the dots, let go, move on.
Throughout the session, we check in: how strong is the discomfort now? What’s shifted? Sometimes it changes quickly, sometimes it takes time. You’re always in the lead.
By the end, the goal is not just to feel less overwhelmed, but to feel more free. EMDR doesn’t erase the past, but it helps you live with it differently. Your brain learns: it is in the past. No need to be afraid now.
Online EMDR can work just as well as in-person therapy when done with high-quality audio and secure connection. I’ve helped clients across the US, Europe, Africa, and beyond with measurable progress and relief